Here’s a short but fun experiment you can do to learn a little more about yourself and to let your friends/family know that you love them:

1.  Grab a piece of paper and a pen.


2.  List the numbers 1 through 5 on the left side of the page.


3. Next to each number, write the name of five people in your life with whom you spent a lot of time.


4.  Next to each name, write three traits about that person that you hold in high regards.  I encourage you to stay away from descriptive words such as “beautiful”, “amazing hair” or other things that describe what a person looks like (even if you greatly appreciate that about the individual).


5.  Now, fold the piece of paper so that the names you wrote get folded behind but you can still see the descriptive words.


6. Many, if not all, of those words/phrases are traits that you highly value.  What does it mean that you are someone who values those traits?  What does it mean that people who have those traits find you to be a person of value?  Do those words describe you or maybe they’re words that you wish described you?

7.  If you’re comfortable, I suggest sharing your words with your friend or family member.  They will probably be surprised and awed that you think these things of them.

What did you learn about yourself through this experiment?